Expectations

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Today morning a phone call left me feeling bitter and hurt. I immediately went to my source of comfort, my best friend and my husband, Sanket, who also happens to be a Life Coach. And I told him what had happened and what I was feeling. To which he just smiled and said, ‘You felt all that because you had expectations. Leave all your expectations and you will always be happy.’ It was right, I called the person with certain expectations and they were not met. And so I felt hurt.

But then as always I had more questions and doubts.

For me to be happy, I would stop expecting from people. But what about the expectations others have from me?

To which he asked me to apply my own principle - Don't do anything because you HAVE to. Do it only when you WANT to.

Comments

  1. M AJuly 26, 2019 at 5:15 PM

    Wonderful advice. A tad bit difficult to apply suddenly but if u make a habit of it ... Makes life much much simpler. And then there is swearing. I find it a very useful tool when I need to let go.

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